Well, I will.
People are sneaky - when I think of pregnant women before I was pregnant myself, I think of gorgeous females with bumps and beautiful thick hair, carrying on with life as normal for 9 months, loving the fact that they're pregnant and about to bring life into this world.
I know now, however, that this isn't' necessarily the case.
First of all let's start with the fact that you're carrying around a baby inside you for 40 weeks; which, incidentally you'll notice that 40 divided by 4 is 10 months and not 9...nice of them to lie to us from the beginning by adding a whole extra month in there?!
All hail pregnant women.
Seriously, I cannot express enough how much admiration I have for them all now that I have gone through it myself. This job is tough and it's one you're expected to just continue with on top of the fact that you most likely have a full-time job already, plus don't want to become a hermit and never leave the house again - so you have to continue doing the social thing too.
I was one of the lucky ones, where my pregnancy has been pretty straight-forward and "easy" in the grand scheme of things.
Sure, I could barely type this with my left hand as my joints were so sore I couldn't move my fingers properly, I couldn't walk for long cos I felt like I had a knife in my pelvis and my ankles were about to overflow onto the road in a lumpy pile of fat whilst I struggled to breathe since a black-belt kicking Ninja was sitting where my lungs used to be; but this is all normal.
Sound appealing yet??
The first 16 weeks of my pregnancy I ballooned into what I felt was a fat, swollen, pale mess; putting on 15kgs and struggling to come to terms with the changes my body was making. You're not at the obviously pregnant stage yet, but you're definitely fat looking, so that does heaps for your confidence and motivation to go out and about.
The girl who used to go to bed about 11pm and want to keep Neil awake chatting about the day was now replaced by this pasty, obese-heading flatulent beast who would crawl to bed at 7pm warning him of death by suffocation should he wake her from her 12-hour coma at any stage. Super sexy doesn't describe it.
From week 16 to 24 I had lots of work travel and preparation to do ahead of taking most of December off to go home, so the focus was on this mainly. I had now also discovered that I no longer wanted to eat hot food (especially vegetables), and was prepared to quite easily and happily live off Crunchy Nut Cornflakes for the rest of my life.
I got Symphysis Pubis Dysfunction (SPD https://www.coreconcepts.com.sg/article/what-is-symphysis-pubis-dysfunction-spd/); which was fine once I didn't move my left leg at all. You see the problem here?
The exhaustion (and gas!) temporarily went away, only to be replaced by discomfort and constipation and the constant need to change underwear. Nothing like another elegant and ladylike image, brought on either by the fact that you wet yourself from sneezing, laughing, coughing, generally moving or simply from a swift unsuspecting Karate kick to the bladder, or thanks to other leakages - I'll spare you the details; couldn't have me telling you everything you are to expect and ruin all the surprises!
From week 24 to 32 I had pretty much completely lost all appetite, happy to eat only once a day as I no longer felt that I had a stomach of my own. Flying long distant flights (24 hours) is not something I would ever recommend doing in Economy when you barely fit in the seat, need an extension on your seatbelt, are sick with a chest infection (but not allowed to take anything for it), can't sleep (but are travelling with someone who goes into "Standby Mode" at the bat of an eyelid) and when you are wearing compression socks that are so tight on your now-wildebeest-like calves that you're left with abrasions on your legs. Half-amputated legs, but on the bright side - no DVT. #winning
The weight gain continued despite the lack of food going into my body and I now had the joy of experiencing what life would be like if you lived on the surface of the sun. Not recommended FYI.
I came back from -6 degrees Ireland to 39 degrees Melbourne and instantly got heat-exhaustion topping up the other ailments and generally feeling like you were close to death.
From week 32 to 40 I had turned from my need for Crunchy Nut Cornflakes to an obsession with milk, sometimes drinking up to 4 litres a day when it was hot outside. Eating any time after 3pm would mean I had killer heartburn for the evening and that night. Apparently the old wives tale is that your baby will have a lot of hair if you get heartburn...this little missy would wanna come out like Rapunzel with the amount I got!
I had now taken up 90% of the bed with the fort of pillows I needed to be as comfortable as possible - two for under my head, one for my back, one for between my legs and one for under the alien mass that was now taking over the 85% of my 90% share of the bed!
Simple things like maintaining balance wasn't as easy as it used to be. Clumsiness, not able to see your feet and therefore tripping over things became commonplace and since no human shoe would fit my now-hobbit-like feet, flip-flops were a staple accessory to anything that I had left in the wardrobe that would fit me. How very Aussie.
Showering was always an interesting affair. Given that your boobs are so sore that you can barely let the water touch them and you can no longer bend over to shave your legs; the act, (that would impress anyone from Cirque Du Soleil by the way), of balancing one foot on the bath whilst holding onto the shower divide and using the spare hand to quickly tame the mammoth legs for another couple of days began.
I attempted to have a bath once, but couldn't fit under the water so only half of my body was washed. I also quickly discovered that I couldn't get out of this world's-shallowest-bathing-bucket after many elegant attempts to exit. Accepting defeat, I was a shivering beached whale by the time Neil came back from the shops to help me out - huffing and puffing with sound effects I may add!! I think he just stopped short of hiring a crane.
"Baby Brain" is a real thing. I had to start using lists for everything, I found the remote in the fridge, I poured milk in my pasta instead of my glass and I just managed, at the last minute, to catch myself from sending Global Management an email that signed off with my giving them kisses; and probably subsequently ending my career with the love gesture.
At 36 weeks we attended the Ante-Natal class, which consisted of our having to sit on small and seriously uncomfy chairs from 9am - 5pm on a Saturday and listen to a midwife go on about the different aspects of hell that were coming our (mostly my) way. None of this breathing exercises and partner working malarky that you would expect from the scenes I've seen on TV.
Facts were stated and many eyes in the room were opened on how less-than-dignified the whole birth process could be. "Mucus plugs" and "Bloody shows" were discussed, followed by vomiting and diarrhea and the very real possibility that you would be defecating in front of your partner and room full of people.
We delighted in the descriptions of an episiotomy or tear and listened intently on how you can feel like you're giving birth again the first time you go to the toilet after delivery.
All was going ok, apart from the fact that Neil was falling asleep in front of the midwife and I had to walk around as I couldn't physically sit on the child-sized wooden seats any longer.
That was, until we were brought to the birthing ward to be shown around.
I was then absolutely and categorically traumatised by the sounds of a woman in the last minutes of delivery, with no pain relief, in the room next to us. I swear the noises from her, which were neither human nor animal sounding, will stay with me til the day I die.
Which - incidentally - could have been during childbirth, from the sounds of her.
Petrified doesn't describe it.
As for the glow - I must have missed that tutorial. Stupidly I assumed that you automatically were gifted with the glow of pregnancy considering all the other crap that you have to put up with.
Unles, of course, you're confusing it with the sweat dripping off me from generally just breathing then no; apparently not.
The only time I got to "glow" was when I paid $80 for my spray tan, $30 for my nails, $100 for my makeup and $60 for my hair for a wedding we were going to - I sure as hell hope I was frickin glowing - even if none of it was real!!
I don't have a car, so I used to get public transport everywhere as I couldn't waddle far.
Women - I salute you for your kindness in giving me your seats; you are the first to get up or ask, no matter what age you are or if the seat you are sitting in is one designated for the elderly, disabled or pregnant or not. Maybe it is because half of you have been here before and know what it's like?
Men - I have had my eyes opened since falling pregnant. I can understand in the beginning if you are unsure and don't want to insult the fatty by asking if they're pregnant, however when the women is about to pop and has to pretty much rub her belly in your face; this is a different story. Looking and seeing the pregnancy proof and then averting your eyes to stare out the window, to the book or phone you're pretending to read; refusing to make any eye contact in case you should see that, yes, I have in fact noticed that you knew I was pregnant and you're still selfishly seated in a seat. I tried the nice approach of hoping that someone would do the decent thing and get their male, non-pregnant ass off the seat and offer it to me, but in the end I just straight out asked them to get up. With a smile, of course :)
At just under 40 weeks I was 25kgs heavier and sporting four chins, stretching any maternity clothing to the limits to try and not have to buy any more. My maternity swimsuit got as far as my thighs and gave up at 39 weeks, so that was a great ego boost! I worked until 38 weeks and then retired to the couch to stop the cankles from taking over my legs completely.
Has it been easy? Nope.
Do I enjoy being pregnant? HELL NO.
Will it be worth it? Let's see....